I am proud of my kids.

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I try to tell them often. But I know it is not often enough.

There are so many obstacles in the world these days specifically designed to tear kids down and family life apart. I know that the decisions of life are tough for them to make. I am proud of them for making them.What they do not realize is that with each passing day, the decisions that we make gain more importance.

All of those little decisions, turn into patterns, and then in to habits, and the consequences of those decisions, patterns and habits serve to flake and form who we are and what our destiny turns out to be. I wish I could take them on a journey from where they are to where I am and back again.

Not only would it be fun, but it would be educational. 🙂 Yet the amazing truth is that cannot. The future is theirs to explore, engage in, and figure out. My future includes theirs but they are getting to the point where it is time to launch. There is a scary sense of satisfaction in that.

Bottomline is that I am proud of my kids. I am proud of the decisions they are making, even when I disagree. Life is an adventure. I am proud of them for approaching it with gusto…and an appropriate amount of respect, all at the same time.

If it does not hurt a little bit, you did not do it right.

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I don’t believe in saying Goodbye.

That is not because I am mentally weak, and I cannot handle the fact that some folks move in and out of our lives from time to time. I am fine with that.  It is because saying “goodbye” is inaccurate.

See you later.  Now THAT is accurate. I like that much better.

Whether we are talking about friends moving hundreds of miles away or whether we are grieving over loved ones who have passed..it makes no difference. We will see them later. There is NO need to use the “G” word.

This week for me is full of those types of experiences. That is NOT a bad thing, but it is a thing.

If it does not hurt (at least a little bit) to watch folks head into their next adventure or venture, then you did not do it right. I mean that. You NEED to feel the sting of friends leaving. Love, whether the friendship type or the more intimate type, is always a mistake worth making.

The heart aches and heart pains of life are what tells us that we can feel. They let us know that we are alive. To protect yourself from that completely means that you are wearing gardner’s gloves versus the thin latex gloves of a surgeon.  One protects us from the hurts, but it does not allow us to be sensitive and feel. You cannot have it both ways.

Another interesting thing that I have experienced is that everyone says “see you later” differently. Some folks need to grieve a bit and then they are ok. Others grow silent and contemplative as separation grows near. Some get angry. Some get stoic.

And it’s all good.

Reactions to parting friends are personal, deep, and part of who each of us is. And it is all ok. Different people, different needs.

It should and does teach us to not waste time and savor the moments we have. Love like there is no tomorrow. Don’t be afraid to sing, dance, smile and wear Hawaiian shirts when it is below freezing, just to see what people say. Like I said, if it does not hurt just a little bit, you did not do it right.

 

Common Sense

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My goal in creating and working on this blog is to create what I consider to be common sense. Once that is done, my goal is to persuade others that what I consider to be common sense is in fact sensible. This blog is also a search for that same common sense that I think many people find missing in today’s world.

Whether you consider today’s political chicanery. Or the latest business trend. Or power mongers trying to inflate their importance in either Politics OR in Business. The bottomline is that they are all subjects that need the light of truth and common sense shined on them.

If you spot some areas where common sense needs to be applied in a nonsensical world, please feel free to comment or contribute. I reserve the right to edit or delete comments at will. This is my online home and I will invite whom I want to contribute and visit. Be kind to people from all points of view. Discuss logically. And let’s learn together.